So you’ve been dating the love of your life for a while and contrary to everyone around you, you believe this relationship is worth continuing. It happens. High School relationships do work out, but here are a few tips that seem to help these relationships go the distance.
1Communicate Before You Leave For College
No matter if you are going to the same college or different colleges, talk through how it may be when you get there. If you are attending schools that don’t allow Freshman to have cars or universities that are really far away from each other, talk through what it will be like to go so long without seeing each other. Try to make a plan about how often you will try to connect through Facetime, text or Snapchat. Be flexible in your expectations. Things happen – schedules change. You were supposed to talk at 6:00 PM, but your roommates are hungry now and want to go to dinner. Be realistic in that sometimes plans fall through and you have to adjust. If you are at the same school, remember it’s okay if it doesn’t work out to see each other every day. Sure it may be different from high school but as both of you are meeting new people, plans will be made that don’t always include your boyfriend or girlfriend.
2College is about new experiences
Meet new people, get involved in clubs, go through rush, enjoy spending time with the people in your dorm, play intramurals. A lot of dorms are co-ed and often this may mean that you and your significant other are meeting people of the opposite sex. It’s okay to enjoy meeting new people and doesn’t mean that your boyfriend is less important.
3Don’t Hold Each Other Back
He wants to be in a Fraternity, she wants to be on the dance team. Great, now is the time in life to do those things. Support your boyfriend or girlfriend in the experiences they want to have.
4Keep The Green-Eyed Monster In Check
Don’t assume the worst. He’s following 10 new girls on Instagram, but that doesn’t mean he loves you any less. He is trying to connect and make friends just like every other Freshman. Be open, communicate and remember you are meeting new people too. Remember trust is vital in any relationship.
5Don’t Listen To Others
Don’t let other people get involved in your relationship. That means well-intentioned friends, parents, family members, teachers, neighbors etc. It can seem that everyone wants to bestow their wisdom on you which is typically that High School Sweethearts don’t last. While many High School relationships may fizzle out, that is irrelevant. Only you and the person you are dating truly know how you feel about each other and what you see as far as a future. While people may think they have all the answers about your relationship, they don’t. So tune out unsolicited advice. Give them a kind thank you so much for being so concerned about us and move on.
6If It’s Meant To Be It Will Be
That has to be the most annoying statement to every dating couple on the planet. Why? Because it feels like it is out of your control. For some couples, they continue to date solidly from High School on. For others, there are hiccups. They may take a break. Long distance may seem too hard only to find out that dating isn’t what they thought it would be and they are miserable without each other. For others, they go their separate ways for college only to discover that their High School boyfriend or girlfriend is their one true love. Be easy on yourself. Navigating a whole new world of changes is hard on everyone, but with a little patience and the right person, it can work.